“Our physical reality is strongly connected to how we feel. We can change how we feel by physicalising a new reality.” Inez

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Introduction

Do you suffer from any of:

• Haemorrhoids

• Leaky gut (stink pooh, sloppy, undigested kai, itchy skin conditions),

• Smell, bad breath

• Allergies

• Bloated underneath your ribcage

• Acne or low zinc levels

• General stress even when nothing is going wrong

• Loss of muscle in your bum and hamstrings

These are signs that you may have imbalances that may not be just your diet and lack of exercise. It can be a body that is riddled with stress hormones. Believe it or not, stress hormones don't turn off just by the stimulant ending. Once switched on, the switch can 'get stuck. This can result in releasing stress responses even when there is nothing to be stressed about anymore. We can release this switch, which then allowing you to return to stasis (balance)...from this weight can start to shift, immune system revived, feel happier.

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The Blog

In my family, the sensitivity to hormones and lack of certain key minerals like zinc is a family legacy. Hereditary. The physical traits have since become mental and emotional problems handed down between generations because no one has stopped to simply learn another way of embracing our physiology.

In this blog I share the principles that I want to share as a story, relating to my recent trip to and from Miami. An interaction between myself and a whānau member - both of us have the same genetics and parents. However, we have two different realities because of our different paths.

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The Story began

I woke on Wednesday, fed the cat, draped the clothes over the horse, dropped off my boys to their dad.

Mr Singh down the road, took my uber request, it’s a $75 dollar ride with probably no one returning our way. I’m grateful. He’s saved me $350 on airport parking for a week. Probably only made $25 from my order - what a good bloke.

And so begins the journey, by far the longest I’ve had. 

• Wainuiomata to Wellington, 

• to Auckland, 

• Los Angeles, 

• Houston, 

• Miami. 

30 degrees celsius and tropical thunderstorms over head. The spice is in the air. Barely anyone looks or sounds “American”. I hear spanish everywhere, brown, black, cuban, white. Everyone is full of color and vibrance. Beautiful people. 

I keep trying to spell my name for people; they see it and say “this way Ms Inez”. I-nez. I forget my name is spanish and it belongs with these folk. Not Eye-nez, not EEE-nez, nor eeenis.

Miami, where everyone knows my name and my colour, dress and style is nothing special amongst them. It was nice to feel like belonging, though I’m thousands of miles away from my origins. I'm feeling great and happy since I started my journey of finding vitality for my life in 2016.

The choice to do something and experience a new reality. It starts with simply doing something different every day. Physicalising a new reality.! 👊

When the story turned to shite

On the return flight - NZ5 -  Los Angeles to Auckland, my phone started pinging. Yes thats right, wifi is now available on the plane. I had my social media messenger connected. Mistake #1. The 12 hour flight turned into 8 hours of incoming abuse, insults, sadness, blame, and circular argument. My family cycle of emotional distress, mental unwellness and despair had made it’s way onto the plane.

It’s a strange thing to get a message every few weeks  “I hope your business fails”. “You’re a bad mother”, “I’ll never forgive you”. It’s like a demonic voice that pops up every now and then as a reminder to not get on with life too quickly. Don’t be too happy.

The closer I got to Aotearoa, home, the thicker the messages came in. For hours, I watched a whānau member unravel via message and voice recordings. Yes I could have blocked it. But for the first time in my life at 41, I realised that I had the fortitude to hold space. Just be there with the person. Then I lost my shit and threw some truth at them. Then I stopped dancing back and told them the hard truth, holding my ground. THIS CYCLE OF RELATIONSHIPS IS NOT ALLOWED IN MY LIFE ANYMORE.

This story is not to say I have the answers. Just that years ago something seemed wrong about the way we do things in our family that appeared to be generational. I walked away from this narrative and started with just small steps like sunshine. Then gut health. Then movement. The flight home reminded me of what life is like when you sit in the cycle and accept it.

The Gut Health Connection

I haven't always seen the value of my Science Degree. Through my Gut Love journey I've been able to detach from my depression, anxiety, poor health and see it for what it is. Chemical and biological reactions. Left unaddressed, they become embedded in your brain as habits and behaviours. These then paint your reality in your head. (I am purposefully not addressing spiritual and trauma, that is a different story)

We inherit generational traumas because we inherit genetics and phenotypes. A tendency to be built a certain way.

1. When you are depleted, low in energy and nutrients, the body takes what it can get and diverts it to vital body functions. Staying alive and keeping the organs going.

2. The first thing to suffer is anything optional to survival, like feeling good or happy. It’s a nice to have in nature.

3. At first these are just feelings, like feeling down - anxious - nervous - lack of sleep - low mood. 

4. After time stuck in this state, these become patterns and habits

5. Patterns and habits get stuck in the nervous system as nerve pathways - electric pulses. They are a real thing, not just a feeling. Feelings are chemical and electrical patterns.

6. Those patterns that are stuck in your body, can mean that without physical change coupled with behavioural change - your mind can see and feel things that aren’t real. The events aren’t happening anymore, but you're stuck in a pattern that becomes your reality.

7. These patterns in behaviour, emotion and thought - become physical realities. Breaking down your body, disturbing your gut and organs.

8. Because the vagus nerve starts in the brain and ends up in the body where it tells your body to respond to what you are experiencing in your head (in a nutshell). Most if not all other nerves start in the body and tell the brain what the body is experiencing.

Read that one again

9. The vagus nerve tells the body to run away, to survive, or to lie still to stay alive. Fright or flight.

10. Some of us are more prone physically to go in to fright or flight sooner, with less stimulation than others. Meaning, it takes less to make us feel bad or scared - sensitive

11. Some family lines are stuck in this cycle of being trapped in the physical manifestation of their experience in their head and emotions.

So what is the solution. It is complex. But part of the solution is to start in the body

1. Create new physical habits

2. Nourish the body with plenty of nutrients and minerals. 

3. This removes the potholes of deficit that sit in the body

4. Then what is left is the mindset, emotions and psychological. Perhaps also mental, chemical and spiritual. Outside the scope of this blog.

5. While you are working on items in point 4, you are at least not held back by the physical deficit.

6. As you re-programme the nervous system and behaviours that sit in the body, your body and mind start (over time) to meet up again.

7. Your mind and how you feel starts to feel as good as your body

8. We are a beaker of chemical and electric reactions. Our human ability to experience those as reality is the end result. 

In my family, there has been a choice to see the experience as real. Staying in the emotional cycles as if they are life itself. Not seeing that they are a manifestation of nutrient deficiency, lack of sleep and overwhelm in this busy world.

Because terror, cortisol, adrenaline can be addictive. And letting go of those addictions doesn’t feel nice. Amazing, how we can become addicted to bullshit and pain.

As NZ 5 landed. I spent 8 hours just pondering while sitting at the international airport. Cleared my energy and I left the whānau member’s hara (problems) there. Before I got on another plane to Wellington, then a $75 Uber ride home to our sleepy valley. To my cat, my trashy TV programme. And slept.

I no longer dance in circles that do not serve my children or my mokopuna. Be better tupuna, is our responsibility and it starts with small steps repeated everyday.

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